Stand Up for everyone....

Standing up for Someone I think this as a learning and Honour for those who realize that giving back respect and dignity to each of their counterpart irrespective of being related or not, being known to each other or not and being a stranger to someone or not.

Today's world is a lot meaner than we could ever imagine and that is root cause for many of our issues which actually go from our professional to personal life,  and that is actually creating a huge amount of doubt and mistrust in the air thereby impacting newer developing growing relationships and rapport amongst us.

Standing up for Someone is a tedious task nowadays because you never know how much true the person is because of doubt and mistrust. I,  on the other hand believe it should be free from expecting something rather than thinking for a reward or appreciation or even doubt.

Today if you stand for Someone, there's whole lot of negative vibe and doubt.
People think he might have stood because he likes that person, or he wants to get some work done, or he has a personal motive of supporting or he has to take advantage of the opposite party by exploiting his or her personal weakness
rather than appreciating the stand. They doubt and keep a distance as if he is a criminal and did a crime that he stood up for them or adviced them or supported them and when they realize he was there for their good it's already too late.

People stand up if they see something wrong is happening or something which is not acceptable as a human behavior. But if we start to act against that stand, then importance of relationships, Friendships washes away as they are formed on the basis of these events only which actually happen between two individuals. So the thing that actually brings together two strangers together is gone.

We as a individual create situations based on what has happened with others rather than trusting our own instinct and trust.So this actually defeats the purpose of being helped by someone else who is a stranger or a friend. 

 I will end this piece by saying only one thing 

STAND UP AND START TRUSTING AND YOU WILL BE TRUSTED.....

Corporate Chaos...

Well its like coming back from exile to writing...

Well this piece talks about the so called 'The Corporate World'. The world of which young are dying to join and old are dying to leave. So from where to start??.......
Lets start with the selection process, I know you must be like 'Dude you writing a book or what' don't worry its all in a gist rather than a full grown story.

Interview is one place where you either end up telling everything lie and still get selected or telling everything truth and still falling short of selection. There is mix and match of that also but I think its a combination of both is what pays off.

The first days or first few months are the so called 'Honeymoon Period' where the performance pressure is not yet settled on us but when its starts it actually shows the Corporate world Cocktail with each type of ingredient you could imagine such as Politics, Groupism, Gossips, Friendships, Contacts, Relationships and many more spicy portions but it teaches you where you actually stand in the world.

Its a never ending cycle with promotions, appraisals, memos, probation periods, businees trips, off site trips but in the end everything acts like it's a essential body part of corporate body structure and if any part is down or missing the Corporate life limps on its way

Its a world full of opportunities with ups and downs but it is still as addictive as hell and we realize that when we are enjoying a long compulsory leave... 

I am not here to take sides and conclude which is better but why it is still required.

Law of ATTRACTION

College life has ended and Academics for this lifetime is over. It feels strange to realize the fact that no more students and farewell night ended with quite a beautiful lesson with someone who has been just as inspirational as I can ever imagine was just given a lesson how not to lose hope on yourself and bad things will come and go but they teach is something which is far more valuable than the studies we do.Anyway that is not the point I m talking about.

Law of attraction ,well I actually attended a guest lecture in my institute on it and believe it or not it's working very well.

People often blame conditions,situations,someone else's behavior,and what not things especially LUCK and DESTINY when things go wrong and horribly wrong in worst cases.What they don't realize that blaming things doesn't make their life back to track or things which have went wrong become right.For me law of attraction works in the same way as my hardwork for me,the harder I work,the more positive I think for it to succeed which makes it even more sweeter in the end.

People tend to believe that if something bad has happened to others by doing the same thing they are doing, it prohibits them from continuing and perhaps they won't even realize that if they might have tweaked it , it might have succeeded for them as they say"Something is Better than Nothing".

People forget the most important thing they have different than others and that is INSTINCT.

Believe in you guys there's nothing more important than that and that feeling of negativity is just your brain working out to look for alternate routes to a problem rather going straight through it. It won't matter that how much you fail or you fear whatever has to come will come.

Even the simplest things in life teach you the biggest lessons that happens when you trust yourself rather than relying on someone else's judgement,experience or feeling.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCT EVERYTHING ELSE WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU

EXPECTATIONS -The Deadly Word

I was eager to write on this topic but couldn't do it due to lack of ideas and observations. Finally I am here with it actually with a lot of personal experiences rather than observations but they do form a part of this. It's definitely a sensitive topic but actually it needs understanding rather than awareness.

Expectations form a very unique part of our life. Whenever, where ever we go they stick to us like a shadow but one thing is for sure they do teach us hard and bitter lessons of life. I have rather personal hardships due to expectations than feeling happy by expectations.

Expectation for me is defined as an imaginary position which we create due to bonding or closeness with someone we know in our mind and heart.Expectations also create a basic instinct about the other person we think about as how he/she will behave,react and all other things which are related.

BUT do we really need to expect from others? Does expecting create a negative image of ours? Why expectations are never met or even if they are met, it's not naturally it's rather force? Is it really that important that we shouldn't expect anything from anyone?
Well these questions are faced by everyone at anytime in their life.
Question is why?

Expectations are created by us because we are so close to someone that we think they will behave accordingly to our thinking and when that doesn't happen that's expectation. Problem actually doesn't lie that we expect but when it's not met there's the real problem and then begins the rollercoaster ride of assumptions and misunderstandings. People don't realize that expectations should be expressed at the right time rather than be hurriedly in it and then suffering which is I would say rather more dangerous.

I myself have been through these mistakes and learnt pretty hard lessons like losing out on friendship due to early and unnecessary expectations. Mistakes which I did were literally ranging from huge expectations and huge assumptions which led to my crash and maybe that was needed because human tendency is you don't believe it untill you experience it. We all have expectations deep inside our heart but they start coming out only when we feel the person is close enough to meet our expectations but that doesn't happen.

It's a deadly word for some and for some it's their way of living which actually gives them happiness. You can't run away from it and neither be dependent on it...

Only thing I will say in the end
"IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOUR PERCEPTION AND UNDERSTANDING RATHER THAN FATE OR DESTINY BECAUSE IF PERCEPTION ISN'T CORRECT THEN NOTHING WILL BE RIGHT BE IT YOUR FATE OR DESTINY OR LUCK WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE"

Mumbai Local Shopping....

Life in Mumbai local is monotonous yet something new we see everyday we travel. There's something in this travel which actually makes us more attached to this mode of transport than any other.

This is something we all observe everyday who travel especially by second class in Mumbai local trains.A strange different voice if you hear in the compartment you realize it's the salesman with something to sell and earn his bread.

Everyday a bunch of few bread earners enter the surburban railway network of Mumbai and travel whole day. There is something about them which makes them go everyday on this huge surburban network. You need mental and physical strength both  and on the top of that you need a strong voice enough to attract attention of a whole compartment jampacked with commuters. What I have observed is they know their customers and they make money perfectly where they target people for their products.

Well not always their products sell,there will be days when no one purchases anything from them, but this doesn't stop them from continuing again the next day.

People take the products and first feel the product by touching and seeing it properly if there's any defect or something like any other consumer in market and if they like it they purchase and yes they don't bargain (atleast I haven't Seen anyone).

This is their daily life and they will continue to do it. These group of simple earners also sometimes children and handicapped.

These people are actually needed for our daily travel because they have established their place here in this system and they make shop while travel and actually save our time which we spend to shop for petty or basic things such as stationery,threading kit or many such things.....

Be it children or handicapped or a youngster well one thing I can say that they are a better salesman than any other person who works in a corporate and sells because they know the customers better than anyone else at least here in Mumbai.

As I complete writing this post a salesman enters my compartment, and another JOURNEY BEGINS......

Mistakes : Supporting and improving OR Taunting and destroying relations

Coming back after long time it feels so great to write. Writing is easier but what to write is difficult. This time 'Mistakes' have been given a place in my writing. But this time it's not about the mistakes we do or mistakes we will make or have been done in past, it's about how people react when they realise or learn about our mistakes and what comes out after that is quite bitter or hurting but true.

Nowadays, when a friend gets hurt by someone else physically or emotionally, it's a simple action of apologizing and moving on.But when we tell these things to our close friends or to siblings or close cousins or someone else,they way react is like "how can you do this","are you nuts you really did this thing", or Like this "I am ashamed to you say you my friend or whatever he/she is."I mean why such senseless reaction? They are also human beings ,can't they do mistakes, they don't deserve a second chance or what. Mistakes done by innocence are ok but no intentional mistake falls in this.

I can give my example, A few months back I did a mistake which was quite meaningless and senseless, I mean even I couldn't believe I did that. But when I told my closer friends and siblings everybody literally started bombarding me with taunts and angry statements. Someone even told me that You are doing an MBA and such mistake was not expected from you. I was like what the hell MBAs are born with special improved brain or what. Why can't people accept the fact that it was done with half knowledge or innocence or lack of smartness or something like that. Rather than supporting and encouraging to avoid such mistakes in future they start their own set of statements.

Come on people this will only make them more angry on themselves and they might even start hating you and in the end you both might lose each other forever.

Sacrifice

This is something i wanted to write for a long time but couldn't think about it appropriately. Sacrifice stands for giving up something for sake of others considerations. Such a deep meaning this word has.But people tend to mistake it for losing something due to mistake and fault of others. Well this is a lot more better than losing something, its actually gaining something that is priceless. Respect, Pride, Patience and more importantly Happiness are some of the fruits we get in return but with no surety that someone will recognize our sacrifice and we will be rewarded. People tend to curse themselves for sacrificing something suddenly but realize the actual importance of it when everything becomes much better than before.

When we sacrifice, we actually learn to lose because winning everything at every time is not possible. It makes us more patient than ever before. It makes us feel the pain of giving up something which is valuable to us but yet feel happy because whosoever is gaining that is because of us and indirectly means we are also the ones who spread happiness.

Sacrifice makes us feel the pain, make us cry, it may devastate us for some period of time but in the long run it is for something more better. Sacrifice the closer things, things that are closer to you and attached to you like no one else because it will make u feel hard core pain yet make stronger . But everytime it is not necessary to do it because you will end up losing everything and things which deserve no sacrifice will also end up getting unnecessary importance.

SACRIFICE. IT WILL MAKE YOU CRY, FEEL PAIN,

YET WILL MAKE YOU STRONG, AND HAPPY

IN THE END