EXPECTATIONS -The Deadly Word

I was eager to write on this topic but couldn't do it due to lack of ideas and observations. Finally I am here with it actually with a lot of personal experiences rather than observations but they do form a part of this. It's definitely a sensitive topic but actually it needs understanding rather than awareness.

Expectations form a very unique part of our life. Whenever, where ever we go they stick to us like a shadow but one thing is for sure they do teach us hard and bitter lessons of life. I have rather personal hardships due to expectations than feeling happy by expectations.

Expectation for me is defined as an imaginary position which we create due to bonding or closeness with someone we know in our mind and heart.Expectations also create a basic instinct about the other person we think about as how he/she will behave,react and all other things which are related.

BUT do we really need to expect from others? Does expecting create a negative image of ours? Why expectations are never met or even if they are met, it's not naturally it's rather force? Is it really that important that we shouldn't expect anything from anyone?
Well these questions are faced by everyone at anytime in their life.
Question is why?

Expectations are created by us because we are so close to someone that we think they will behave accordingly to our thinking and when that doesn't happen that's expectation. Problem actually doesn't lie that we expect but when it's not met there's the real problem and then begins the rollercoaster ride of assumptions and misunderstandings. People don't realize that expectations should be expressed at the right time rather than be hurriedly in it and then suffering which is I would say rather more dangerous.

I myself have been through these mistakes and learnt pretty hard lessons like losing out on friendship due to early and unnecessary expectations. Mistakes which I did were literally ranging from huge expectations and huge assumptions which led to my crash and maybe that was needed because human tendency is you don't believe it untill you experience it. We all have expectations deep inside our heart but they start coming out only when we feel the person is close enough to meet our expectations but that doesn't happen.

It's a deadly word for some and for some it's their way of living which actually gives them happiness. You can't run away from it and neither be dependent on it...

Only thing I will say in the end
"IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOUR PERCEPTION AND UNDERSTANDING RATHER THAN FATE OR DESTINY BECAUSE IF PERCEPTION ISN'T CORRECT THEN NOTHING WILL BE RIGHT BE IT YOUR FATE OR DESTINY OR LUCK WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE"